Wednesday, November 4, 2020

How to assess your level of emotional maturity.


I often share with clients Murry Bowen's ideas of "reactivity" vs. responsiveness." 

Being emotionally reactive usually creates problems for the individual and the people they are in relationship with. By contrast being responsive, meaning that the individual has developed purposeful and deliberate ways of handling distressing emotions in their interactions with others, usually results in more satisfying and fulfilling ways to functioning.

Tuesday, November 3, 2020

Why do we choke and how to stay calm under pressure.

As a psychotherapist, I often find myself talking with clients about overthinking things. Some forethought, anticipatory planning, and problem solving is a good thing, but taken too far it becomes what we, in psychology, call "rumination." Rumination is a symptom of depression and interferes with functioning.

An effective way of dealing with rumination is to envision yourself succeeding and focusing on goal achievement rather than on all the things that can go wrong.