Do chat bots cripple social skill development in children and teens?

 

For more from this Scientific American article click here.

There are similar concerns about the crimpling of human social skills when people resort to on-line social media to meet their needs for social connection.

Parenting - telling the children about the plan to divorce

 

Linda McCullough Moore's book of short stories, An Episode Of Grace, begins with the story entitled, "You choose," which begins with this paragraph:

"I’m driving on Route 91, going ten miles over the limit, on the way to my divorce, or, at least, to its announcement. My husband Jake and I decided we would tell the kids tonight. We’ve waited way too long. Our marriage died of natural causes years ago. We are planning that our children will be shocked beyond surprise, but we both know better. Any hesitation that we have about telling them isn’t fear of their surprise; it’s knowing that once we say the words, out loud, to them, it will be official, carved in stone, irreversible. But, of course, that’s what we want."

The children's' names are Jonah who is 11 and Adam who is 6.

Of all the questions I get asked as a couple counselor and a family therapist by people going through a divorce are when and how to tell the kids?

My stock answer is "Don't tell them anything until you know specifically what the plan is unless they ask."

Kids being narcissistic in a healthy way first ask when told their parents are separating is "What's going to happen to me?" Parents need to have the answer to provide the child with whatever sense of security and predictability they are able.

The narrator in this story has her plan in place and has coordinated the telling the children with her husband and as she travels to the meeting with the children she gets stuck in a snow storm and as the various events unfold her ambivalence about divorcing her husband grows in poignant ways.

The ambivalence partners usually feel about a break-up with the concomitant anger, sadness, fear, hope, sense of failure and regret, are things the therapist witnesses and, hopefully, clarifies with the client(s) into some sort of coherent story that makes sense to themselves primarily and then to others affected.

The key question, often overlooked, in the emotional turmoil is, "What is the purpose of this relationship?" The genuine answers to this question usually lie at an unconscious level that the individual is not aware of and doesn't understand. 

The understandings of one's motivations, choices, and responsibilities are key to growth towards greater maturity so that the individual does not jump from the proverbial frying pan into the fire and engage in what Dr. Freud called the "repetition compulsion" to merely re-enact the same scenario over again.

The narrator of the story recognizes that telling the children about the impending divorce is a milestone in the process which she determines as a point of no return. It is an action which will make the rupture permanent and complete. The finality and the closure seems to heighten her apprehension about the decision to divorce rather than mollify it and liberate her.

What will she do when she gets her car unstuck from the snow and reschedules the meeting with her their husband and maybe soon to be ex- husband?

Pop quiz - Parenting styles

What is the most effective parenting style?

A. Authoritarian

B. Permissive

C. Uninvolved

D. Authoritative

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New York State has third lowest suicide rate in the US after New Jersey and Massachussetts.

 Based on recent data, the suicide rate in the United States is significantly higher than the homicide rate.

• Suicide Rate: In 2022, the age-adjusted suicide rate was 14.2 per 100,000 people.

• Homicide Rate: In 2023, the homicide rate was 5.9 per 100,000 people. Other data for 2023 shows a rate of 6.8 per 100,000 people.

In terms of total deaths, there are nearly two times as many suicides as homicides in the U.S. For example, in 2022, there were over 49,400 suicides compared to around 24,800 homicides.

In my career as a Psychiatric Social Worker I have done over 15,000 suicide evaluations most of them as a Psychiatric Assignment Officer in urban hospital emergency rooms.

Suicide rates vary greatly by region and other demographic characteristics. Men kill themselves three times more often than women but women attempt suicide three times more often than men. The reason for the discrepancy between suicide death rates is due to the means of the attempt. Men most often use guns while women use ODs and cutting.

New York State consistently has one of the lowest suicide rates in the United States. While the specific ranking can vary slightly depending on the year and the source of the data, New York is typically in the bottom three alongside states like New Jersey and Massachusetts.

For example, according to data from 2021, New York's suicide rate was 7.9 per 100,000 people, placing it among the lowest rates in the country. This is in stark contrast to states with the highest rates, such as Wyoming, Montana, and Alaska, which often have rates three to four times higher.

Suicide rates seem more influenced by the availability of social infrastructure than any other factor. When people are desperate do they have a place to turn? Is there help for what is distressing them so much that they would rather end their lives than go on living. New York, New Jersey, and Massachusetts have much better health and human services than other states.

Withdrawal symptoms from discontinuing antidepressants worse the longer they are taken

From PsyBlog 08/06/25

The longer a person takes antidepressants, the more likely they are to experience withdrawal symptoms when coming off them.

People who have taken them for more than two years are at a 10 times higher risk of experiencing withdrawal symptoms compared to short-term users (less than six months).

For long-term users, those symptoms are likely to be more severe and take longer to resolve.

Around half may suffer withdrawal symptoms when coming off antidepressants (although some think the true rate is nearer 15 percent).

Withdrawal symptoms include anxiety, dizziness, headaches, nausea, depression and suicidal thoughts.

It has been my experience after 56 years of practice as a psychiatric social worker that anti-depressant in some situations can be helpful but they are not a panacea for what too easily is diagnosed as "depression." There are many different types of depression and multiple factors that contribute to it. Studies show that in general counseling is more helpful in the long run than medications. In general anyone started on an anti- depressant should also obtain an evaluation of the depression by a qualified mental health clinician.

Themes from The Best American Science And Nature Writing 2024

The themes that have emerged for me from The Best American Science and Nature Writing 2024  are:

1. The earth is getting warmer and having negative consequences for the ecological balances which we humans have become accustomed to.
2. This climate warming is having negative consequences up to and ending in death for many living things.
3. A small group of under-supported scientists are studying what's happening and their findings are largely ignored or dismissed by the decision makers except in a few instances.
4. Science journalism is one way of informing and educating people about what is happening to them which is outside their level of awareness because the changes are insidious except when they culminate in catastrophic weather events.

Some observers have noted that because of these four things social anxiety and tension has risen contributing to political polarization and the rise of autocracies exemplified by the "strong man" leader who promises to "fix everything" and make people safe and more secure. This political solution is delusional because it doesn't address the underlying problem which is human caused climate change.

What will help? A correct diagnosis of the problem causing the rise in anxiety and plans that are effective in addressing the creation and maintenance of the problem. This requires cooperation, collaboration, and joint efforts around the planet. Isolation and nationalism will not help, but only maintain and increase the problem. There needs to be a shift from the emphasis on private wealth and profit to a sharing and creation of health giving commons. This is a huge shift in values especially in the richest country in the world, the US. What will bring this shift in values in the US population? The worsening of circumstances until people have to find a better way to live if they are to survive. And then a transformation into cooperative, collaborative, mutually satisfying democratic processes.

PS - The Best American Science and Nature Writing 2024 is the August 2024 selected read of the Allnonfiction Book Discussion Group. If you are interested in joining the Allnonfiction Book Discussion Group you can find more about it here.

Use of EHRs (Electronic Health Records)

Those of us with a more cynical sense of humor use to talk about "treating the chart". Treating the chart becomes more important as a means of complying with system expectations and requirements and often is used in measuring provider performance. This system is very dysfunctional and contributes to poorer patient care. As such, an argument might be made that the use of EHRs is unethical because of the skewed values and consequences for patient care.

When I reopened my private practice in May of 2024, I attempted to use the Simple Practice practice management system which includes their EHR templates. I quickly abandoned most of it because it seemed to interfere with my client care rather than enhance it. I went back to keeping my own notes on paper for the most part and sometimes computer based files which only I control and designed. The only thing I use it for now is billing.

https://mailchi.mp/openminds.com/daily-executive-briefing-4323228?e=f8bccd7a14

"most EHR systems weren’t built with the clinician in mind. They were built to get electronic billing information to payers and health plans and the results reflect those early designs. A study found that primary care practitioners spend more than 50% of their workday using their EHR—355 minutes (5.9 hours) of an 11.4 hour workday (see Primary Care Doctors Spend More Than 50% Of Workday On Documenting In The EHR). Of those 355 minutes, 75% were spent in the office during office hours and 25% were spent after hours. These data show that three tasks consume the most time: documentation (24%), reviewing chart notes (17%), and prescription refills and results management (16%)."