Thursday, July 21, 2022

Therapist: Know thyself.


An additional feature of Integral Psychotherapy, one just as important as its inclusive theoretical stance, is that it strongly emphasizes the therapist's personal development. Whereas many systems call for therapists to be aware of their own cultural biases and countertransferential tendencies—or to more generally engage in self-care—Integral Psychotherapy goes far beyond this. Specifically, it brings the understanding of the therapist's role into line with constructivist–developmental theory (Kegan, 1994), which is an important, emerging approach to human knowing. This theory posits that, as humans, we actively construct our experience of our world and ourselves. Yet it also suggests that the depth and comprehensiveness of the reality we construct is set or limited by our individual development. This idea has deep implications for a therapist who wants to understand the full range of human experience.

Forman, Mark D.. A Guide to Integral Psychotherapy (SUNY series in Integral Theory) . State University of New York Press. Kindle Edition. 


What are the tools of the psychotherapist? A carpenter has a hammer and saw, a seamstress or tailor their needle and thread, an accountant their spreadsheets, and what is the main tool of the psychotherapist? Their personality.


A psychotherapist must use their personality in a purposeful and deliberate way to help their clients meet their goals.


What activities and experiences help the psychotherapist become more self aware so they can use their personality purposefully?


Cultivating wisdom



Often, if we are honest, it is precisely our theory of therapy itself that limits our ability to understand the client.


Forman, Mark D.. A Guide to Integral Psychotherapy (SUNY series in Integral Theory) . State University of New York Press. Kindle Edition. 


As therapists we need theories to understand the problems which clients present to us. To be well trained in a certain theory or technique is the basis for many workshops, CE classes, and certifications. However, when the only tool in your tool box is a hammer, everything starts looking like a nail.


I asked a colleague one time what he thought the most important quality was in a good therapist and he said, “Wisdom.” Having my BA in Philosophy I felt a warm glow with this answer.


I have spent my career reflecting on how one cultivates wisdom?


Book discussion - A Guide To Integral Psychotherapy by Mark D. Forman

 I am studying the book, A Guide To Integral Psychotherapy: Complexity, Integration, and Spirituality In Practice by Mark D. Forman. There will be many posts over the next few months about ideas from this book. Please, if you are interested, get a copy and follow along and comment on our discussion.

Monday, July 18, 2022

Suicide rates by country


The suicide rates by country in 2019 per 100K were 

Jamaica = 2.3
Italy = 4.3
Israel = 5.2
UK = 6.9
Germany = 8.3
Ireland = 8.9
France = 9,7
Canada = 10.3
Australia = 11.3
Japan = 12.2
U.S. = 14.5
Russia = 21.6

The US has twice the rate of suicide as the UK and 3 times the rate of Italy.

Sunday, July 17, 2022

Grief - The body dies but the spirit lives on in the stories we tell.

 


The body dies but the spirit lives on in the stories we tell about the values, opinions, beliefs, and practices of the body which has died.

I had a dream last night about my paternal grandmother who died when I was 21. My aunt, her daughter, complained to me that I had not visited her and that she missed seeing me. I defended myself by telling my aunt, "But I thought she died?" My aunt repeated her statement, "No, she is alive and well and wants to see you."

"Okay," I said, "I'm sorry. I guess I was mistaken. I will go and see her."

I did go to see her and apologized. I said to her, "Grandma, I thought you had died."

She said, "No, I've been here and I've missed you."

She was quite different in that she seemed very happy and enjoying her life and I was very happy to learn she was alive and I could visit her now. We had a delightful visit and I look forward to many more. It was a joy to reconnect.

Sunday, June 19, 2022

Meditation and Aerobic exercise can reduce depression up to 40% in two months

 

Saturday, June 18, 2022

What is success?



Success at age 3 is not peeing your pants or skirt,

Success  at age 16 is driving a car

Success at 18 if discovering the wonder and intimacy of sex.

Success in your 20's and 30s is finding a meaningful  job or profession and raising your kids at home.

Success in your fifties and 60's is getting your kids out of your home.

Success in your 60's and 70's is wondering if you really want to have sex.

Success in your 70's and 80's is keeping your drivers license.

Success in your 80's, is of course, not peeing your pants or skirt.