Friday, February 24, 2017

"It is what it is" leads to resilience and a miracle

Two thirds of Americans report Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) which predict poorer health and more problems in adulthood. However research has show than people who can accept their childhood trauma seem to do better. This acceptance does not imply agreeing with it or condoning it.

In reading this description of the study done, and the observation that "mindfulness" helps with managing memories of the trauma, the saying "it is what it is" comes to mind. In the recognition of the trauma and the acknowledgement of it, we can rise above it.

This recognition and acknowledgement often happens best when the person can have his/her say about what happened in the presence of an understanding, trusted other. It is the non anxious listening of another who becomes an enlightened witness that this transformation can occur. Some might call this transformation a "miracle" in the sense that there is a shift in perception and understanding that is liberating and facilitates peace.


  1. Glad to see the blog more active again.

    ACEs are a big deal in our understanding of human development and problems. There is no pill for it so it doesn't get the recognition it serves. The healing of ACEs is loving, supportive, caring human connection.

  2. I agree. First hand experience. It's about releasing ourselves from the stronghold of pain and replacing it with love for ourselves and others. Giving Grace to the perpetrator, not necessarily forgiveness. This releases our spirit/ soul/ body from the prison him/ her put us in. Being aware and mindful verses ashamed and fearful breaks the chains of bondage. God heals.